A Letter To Everyone Who Thinks That Feminism Is Synonymous With Man-Hating

Dear everyone who think that feminism is synonymous with man-hating,

Here’s feminism 101 for you. Let’s get the facts out of the way – feminism simply means equality. We are not shouting slogans implying that women are superior in any way, shape or form. We are simply saying that men aren’t. Just to make it clear, by saying that men aren’t superior, we are not insinuating that they are inferior. When it comes to rights, those are not the two extremes to prescribe to. Once again, what we mean is that men and women, and everybody else, are equal. Save the argument that the two are biologically different (and a part of that is that women are more emotionally driven while men function on logic). We don’t discount that. All we are saying is “different” does not come with in-built hierarchy.

You accuse us of many things – we are too emotional, too loud, too bitter, too self-centric, even sexist ourselves, putting men down. Understand where we come from, and the generations and years of struggle that we still carry the ripples of. There was a time, when our grandmothers and great-grandmothers were “burning bras,” when women were not allowed to vote, or work. We had no autonomy other than as mothers. Our bodies were considered shameful. Female pleasure was an alien concept. Menstruation was considered evil. We were not allowed to step out of the house un-chaperoned by a man, let alone wear what we wanted. Times may be different now (that to only in some parts of our country), our voices heard in some quarters, our presences felt in the sciences and arts, but this wasn’t always the case. We – the women before us – had to fight for all of it. We were oppressed, and that’s a fact you cannot alter.

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